I'm not going to dwell on the famous "
your body is God's temple" I tweeted about recently. We all know that smoking defiles the temple. It even defiles churches we go to and pray in... but that's not what I'm onto here. Here's the thing, Some people call me an ex-smoker because I don't smoke anymore. I call myself a smoker a smoker because not a day goes by that I don't want a cigarette. Blah-Blah-Blah, quitting's tough, it never ends, it takes constant willpower, blah blah blah. Also not one the points I want to make.
I also don't want to sound like I don't understand... like I'm some high-and-mighty-ex-smoker-with-a-grudge. On the contrary, I'm preaching this in a gentle voice. It's tough sometimes to make words on paper or a screen fit the emotional context they're meant to, so let me say this up front, there is no fire in this preaching. There is no anger or judgment. On the contrary, if you read this, and you want help stopping, I'll be happy to reach out to you. No, that's not right, I'll be happy to reach out WITH you, because I'm still afflicted too, and I understand how hard it is, how it feels, and what it's like.
Let me get to the points I want to make about the sins smoking brings...
Polluting the TempleAs I said before, we all know this. I know you don't want to hear it again, and it's one of the reasons everyone thinks smoking is a sin. I'm listing it to be complete, nothing more. So, lets move on...
The Appearance of EvilSmoking in front of people who might look up to you, such as children, coworkers, random strangers etc. is like an advertisement for a cigarette. Let's look straight at "monkey-see, monkey-do" - doing something gives others the impression that it's ok to do that same thing. It's a double-edged sword - That's why good deeds are contagious and unruly mobs form. The Bible does speak indirectly to this troublesome issue... 1st Thessaloninans says "Avoid every kind of evil." (NIV) or "Abstain from all appearance of evil." (NKJV). Both translations tell us to avoid evil and its appearances. Which is to say that since smoking gives the appearance of evil, is should be avoided. Tough words to follow, when in the past there I've been smoking on the street as children walked by. That puts bit of guilt on the plate for me indeed. That guilt, in turn, brings me to shame.
ShameThere is shame in doing something you know is wrong. But it's not the worst shame. There is significant shame in failure. I can't tell you how many times I've failed to keep off the death sticks. I've quit more times than I can count, and I'm pretty good with numbers. Each time I went back, as much as I enjoyed that rush of nicotine into my brain and that dizzy euphoria that comes with taking a drag after not having one in a long time, I also felt ashamed. Ashamed that I wasn't strong enough to get the job I had put before myself done. Ashamed that I was killing myself, because we all know smoking will kill you, and therefore (at least in my head) smoking's not too far a stretch from slow suicide (now there's another sin!). Ashamed that I was killing my wife's husband. Ashamed that I was killing my children's father. Ashamed that I had prayed for the strength to quit, and failed my God.
Shame is a good thing in most cases - it is the emotion God created in us so that we would know when we are not walking His path for us. Feeling ashamed can lead to good actions - like correcting a mistake, seeking forgiveness, etc. The downside is that left unchecked, shame can be a form of "gateway sin". When you do nothing about your shame, you are giving in to the sin that caused the shame. What's more, long-term shame roots in the inability to forgive yourself, and the Lord teaches us to forgive each other, and therefore ourselves.
LiesI can't tell you how often I lied to my wife about still being resolute in my quitting, even as I was sucking down lung darts like licorice. She knew I was full of it - How could she not know? I wasn't very affectionate for fear of the stench giving me up for the liar I was. I was as grumpy as you can get, constantly fighting and snapping, and looking for ways to vent my addiction-fueled nic-fit anger when I couldn't get a cigarette. (Truthfully, mornings are still like that for me... and I don't know when it'll change, but every morning, I still want that smoke, still get those sharp rises in temper from not having one, and still suck down a huge quantity of coffee to take the edge off). I would lie to myself, and say I wasn't a smoker. I was just having a small relapse and it wouldn't take much to get back on the wagon. I would lie to my kids... my oldest anyway... because he's old enough to ask real questions and expect real answers.
So, you can see that there's a few sins behind those cigarettes. And it's not easy to quit. The success rates are on a par with heroin addicts getting off the dragon. Again, let me make this perfectly clear - if you're a smoker, I'm with you. Whether you've stopped or want to stop or don't want to stop - I've been there. Whatever the case, remember that smoking is definitely a sin, and you should pray for God to lift you up from sin. Ask his forgiveness for the sin - even if you continue to smoke, you will be forgiven. If you don't feel right about that, remember Matthew 18:21-22 -
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times."
(NKJV recrods the number as "seventy times seven" - an allegory for an infinite number of times)
If you're ready, ask for His help in stopping the cycle of that sin and giving up the death sticks. Ask others for help as well. Step up to the plate, confess to those you've wronged as well as to God. Try saying this - "I'm going to give up smoking, I need your help." to God in prayer and your loved ones. Also, feel free to reach out to me too.